As the world sinks into immorality and every vain passion associated with human relationships, God’s children are called to follow the ancient paths (Jeremiah 6:16). The sacred institution of marriage, as designed by the Creator, must begin with a process guided by purity, principle, and divine purpose. Courtship, when done God’s way, reflects heaven’s order, not the world’s chaos.
Just as we consult God’s Word when making decisions about health, faith, and ministry, so we must seek divine guidance in matters of the heart — especially the path leading to marriage.
“The marriage relation is holy, but in this age it covers vile and Satanic passions; and this is why the Word of God is full of injunctions and cautions in regard to this subject.
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Isaac and Rebekah A Courtship of Prayer and Providence
Genesis 24
Isaac’s marriage was not the result of flirtation or feelings — it was bathed in prayer and directed by providence. Abraham’s servant, tasked with finding a wife, prayed specifically for God’s sign. When Rebekah passed the test of character and hospitality, the servant worshipped God and honored the family’s role in the decision.
“The servant asked the Lord for a sign, and when it was fulfilled, he gave thanks and glorified God before making any move.
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Ruth and Boaz A Courtship of Honor and Integrity
Book of Ruth
Ruth was known for her virtue, not her beauty or style. Boaz noticed her character, work ethic, and loyalty. He ensured that everything about their relationship was done publicly, legally, and honorably. There was no secrecy, lust, or emotional manipulation.
“Blessed be thou of the Lord...for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman.
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Joseph and Mary A Courtship of Purity and Responsibility
Matthew 1:18–25
Joseph and Mary were betrothed, meaning they were committed to marry but had not yet come together physically. Even when faced with a situation he didn’t understand (Mary’s pregnancy), Joseph sought to handle it with dignity, purity, and care.
“Joseph...was a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.
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Steps for a Godly Courtship Today
The Bible and Spirit of Prophecy provide timeless principles that youth can apply today as they seek God’s will in relationships:
Seek God First
“In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.
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“Let those who are contemplating marriage weigh every sentiment, and watch every development of character in the one with whom they think to unite their life destiny.
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Involve Parents and Mentors
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.
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“Very few have correct views of the marriage relation. They are not careful to seek God’s guidance. They consult only their own desires and inclinations.
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Prioritize Character Over Charm
“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
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Set Boundaries and Remain Pure
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
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“True love is a high and holy principle, altogether different in character from that love which is awakened by impulse.
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Evaluate Compatibility and Purpose
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
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Move Toward Marriage with Prayer and Clarity
“Marriage is something that will influence and affect your life both in this world and in the world to come.
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A Relationship Heaven Can Smile Upon
Biblical courtship isn’t old‑fashioned — it’s heaven‑fashioned. It’s God’s design for His children to enter into marriage with peace, purity, and purpose. As the enemy works to destroy homes before they begin, may Christian youth rise to choose God’s way over the world’s ways — a path of honor, virtue, and lasting love.
“Marriage, a union for life, is a symbol of the union between Christ and His church.
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Let’s return to the ancient path and let God write our love stories.